HOW TO RECOGNIZE IT IN YOURSELF — AND OTHERS: TRUE CHANGE
The need for change can be urgent. For having discovered the solution to the problem many find not a second can be lost. Stale marriages are swept aside, dull jobs ended by penning a resignation letter. In a brave gesture of independence there might even be a fling to Paris or Acapulco with a young girl.
But making a true change cutting out of one lifestream and into another is not a move to be lightly taken and certainly not one for the weak. True change demands courage. Think of the consequences at home or at work while trying to explain the moves. Parents, friends, the boss, they only respect stability. To you stability may represent boredom, lack of initiative and enterprise or lassitude and dullness. To them one job, one family and a regular routine spells a nice guy with healthy understanding for responsibility. Wild gestures are never understood or condoned even if the move turns out to be shortlived before returning to the old life chastened and, maybe, revitalized.
To worry about the consequences is therefore realistic. Thinking before you jump, wise action. At forty there is no guarantee that any change is for the better or that success comes any more easily than it did at twenty-five. A man might be trapped in a dull job but handing in his resignation in times of recession without a new job to go to is highly risky and foolhardy. The sad fact is that fewer openings occur for men each year after thirty-five.
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